We live in
a world that is so focused on appearance. Make sure your hair is always perfect,
be dressed in the latest fashion, get those eyebrows on FLEEK, have a big house
and nice car even if that means struggling to make the payments. My struggle
with appearance comes in the form of décor! I would look through magazines, see
my friend’s homes, or even worse; look at PINTEREST and all of a sudden I am
not content with our home. A new couch would be nice, a new area rug would look
pretty, and because we got a new couch new pillows and a new throw are a must.
And then the latest HGTV magazine comes out and the new must haves for your
home are spread throughout the pages and I look at our home and my mind starts
racing, AGAIN.
There is
nothing wrong with having nice things, I believe that when you can, you should
treat yourself to nice things, but the question is, who are the nice things
for? Are they because you want them or because you want them so OTHERS see you
have them? I am sitting on our couch as I write this. A couch that my in-laws
GAVE us. A couch that we did not have to pay for. A couch that would have cost
us hundreds of dollars. Hundreds of dollars that we did not have to spend when
we first started out. This couch has been the place that we fall on when we get
home from a long work day, where we cuddle when we watch Netflix, where we eat
breakfast and watch morning TV, where we are lazy with our dog on rainy days.
This couch despite its age, is in AMAZING shape. Yet, there are days that I
want DIFFERENT, I want the latest trend in couches. I see my friends couch and
I WANT! My dream couch is a white slipcover sectional. It looks beautiful,
especially against a grey wall with white molding and dark wood floors (sorry
just dreaming here) I can imagine it now, my friends coming over for drinks and
admiring our beautiful couch with the fur throw hanging over the back of it
saying they love the way I decorated our home, and then I yell, “NO DON’T SIT
ON THE WHITE COUCH WITH YOUR GLASS OF RED WINE! YOU WANT TO EAT CHIPS AND SALSA
ON THE COUCH? ARE YOU CRAZY?! “ Then when we have little babies running around
that means sticky little fingers and food covered mouths and crayons, lots of
crayons and creative minds with a big white canvas in arms reach! And what
about our little fur baby, Rango? I refuse to have paw prints on a white couch.
So I have finally come to the realization that although a white couch would
look beautiful, although my friends would think it looked great, we would not
be able to do what we normally do on our current couch on a white couch. Yes
it’s a slip cover and can be washed, but how often am I really going to want to
take it off and wash it and not sit on it for 24 hours?
My husband
recently received a large photo of himself from his football days. It’s a
pretty decent size photo! In the photo he is running out of the tunnel at one
of his home games from his last season at Liberty. It’s a really awesome photo,
and it brought back so many memories for me. We met at Liberty. I cheered my
husband on in the stands for 3 years of our relationship while he was on the
field doing something he loved. Our relationship grew deeply at Liberty, and I
remembered all of those special moments we had there just by looking at that
photo, but once those thoughts faded my next thought was, “where the heck am I
going to put a picture like this?” It doesn’t “match” our décor. Our guests are
going to look at it and think our home looks weird. They won’t appreciate it. They
won’t understand it. One, I’m pretty sure my friends could careless, and two even
if they did think it was weird/out of place why should I care?! That photo
means so much to us. Since my husband was a little boy football has been a huge
part of his life. He got a scholarship because of football which ended up in
him being able to get not only a Bachelor’s but also a Master’s for free. He
touched many lives through his platform playing football. That photo reminded
us both of a wonderful time in our life and our relationship that was truly
special. So why wouldn’t I hang it in a place that we will see it all the time?
It may not match our décor, it may not be what is in “style”, it may not be
appealing to our guests, but it is US.
My husband
and I love candy! I always look forward to when we have our movie dates because
we make a pit stop to the dollar tree and get our sour gummy worms and gummy
bears. We would totally eat them everyday if it wasn’t bad for us hehe. So when
I saw this vintage gumball machine at an antique store you better believe that
I bought it! I filled it with a bunch of gumballs….and then we ate all the gumballs.
It isn’t something you would see grace the cover of Southern Living or HGTV
magazine, but it fits perfectly in the Vinson household.
I
did all of that babbling to get to this point, DON’T FORGET YOU LIVE THERE. Don’t
forget it is YOUR home. When all of your guests leave and it is just you and your
family (which it is 95% of the time) you want to be able to relax. You want to
be able to eat chips and salsa on the couch and drink a glass of red wine
without caring if you spill a little while you sit back and look at your
husband’s football photo hanging along with a picture of a bull skull, and
reminisce about college days. You want to be able to cuddle up with your dog
under a blanket that he most like chewed a hole through but it made no sense to
run and spend money on a new one just because friends were coming over for
dinner and you didn’t want them to notice the imperfection (because he would
chew a hole through the new one too). If you can afford to buy high-end
furniture and you enjoy your home looking like the cover of a magazine that is
great (seriously, everyone is different), maybe I am just speaking to myself
here. But I have come to realize, that when we live in our means/according to
our budget and decorate with things we love and hold dear; whether they clash
or not, whether they are in style or not; that is when our home looks the best,
that is when our home looks magazine worthy! So if you are looking to decorate
your home, don’t just buy things because you know they are popular. Don’t pay
extra for something just because you want your friend to be impressed. Décor trends
fade. Buy décor that you love, buy things that describe who you and your family
are! That type of décor will be timeless!
happy decorating